So I am perusing my favorite news site The Guardian and I happen upon this article. All I can say after reading this I am fucking sick. Now I will never know what it like to be unable to conceive. I have yet to experience the yearning for a child. But I would like to think I am not this fucking selfish or clueless.
She plans to tell the child the truth about the way he or she was conceived. “You can’t lie to your child all your life,” she says. But she hasn’t yet thought about the fallout if the child wants to know more about its genetic parents. “It’s preferable that they’re kept anonymous. What’s the meaning of finding out?”
Now IVF is is completly different than adoption, but one thing remains the same, and that is the question of identity. The meaning of finding out who one is, is personal and has to do with the person you have to look at every day in the mirror.
I really am at a loss for words on what to say in response to this article. Right now there are too many thoughts swirling in my head to put down in a coherent fashion.
I guess all I can say is I am sick of babies being treated as commodities. I am tired of human beings being bought and sold like any other consumer goods. And I absolutely hate that there are human beings out there that think “shopping” for children is ok.
Here is the link to the article “The Fertility Tourists”
Go Fuck Yourself Ekaterina Aleksandrova!!!!
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July 30, 2008 at 1:16 pm
Sang-Shil
What an intensely disturbing article, and for so, so many reasons. I don’t think I’ve seen a bigger lapse of medical ethics than that doctor. And really, do Brits actually use the term “coloured people” on a regular basis?
And then there’s the love-conquers-all myth: “Duncan says Freya’s racial difference is irrelevant to her. ‘I wasn’t bothered when she was born and I’m not concerned now. What matters is that she gets all the love and care she needs growing up.’ ”
AARRGGHH!!! **headdesk**
July 30, 2008 at 1:22 pm
Sung-Kyun
I am glad I am not the only one who found numerous flaws in this article. The whole “coloured people” statement left me saying the same thing.
But I am glad the racial difference doesn’t bother the parents, because as we all know that is all that matter, because they give all their love to their child. And Love conquers all. Awwwwww.
*boilk* sorry I just threw up in my mouth and swallowed it. It was the panini I had for lunch if you were wondering.
Ahhh better now. I just washed down that disgusting taste in my mouth with a good dose of cynicism.
July 30, 2008 at 5:30 pm
MH
This article IS really disgusting. “Coloured people”? Give me a break…
The new issues that are being created from advances in fertility treatments and technological advances in medicine have definite ties to adoption related issues of loss and questions that might never be answered.
I really don’t understand where someone’s need for a child can be overshadowed by the child’s right to have the knowledge of who he/she is and where they came from.
And yeah, I had to suppress the upchuck reflex, too…
August 5, 2008 at 10:43 am
Nessie
In this case I disagree with your statement about IVF being different than adoption. If the genetic material is not from you and your partner, you have adopted.
The fact that someone serves as their own surrogate mother only means that they were willing to accept the risks of carrying a child, but wait . . . . Moms do that all the time.
Honestly, I can’t even read this whole article. It is too much to take in.
The world is sure a strange place.