Comments on: How am I not myself?

By: Gershom

Gershom — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 20:40:17 +0000

the support in this thread is soooo wonderful.

By: dory

dory — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 14:00:29 +0000

So much of ourselves was left behind as we were passed on to that “better life” that I’m not sure any adoptees are really truly themselves.

It’s hard to find and connect with that true self when it was hurt from the get-go. That was not supposed to happen and we weren’t given any tools (and usually no compassion) in how to deal with it. We were expected to be happy about it – what a mindf*ck.

I wish I could reach through my monitor and hug you.

By: Sung-Kyun

Sung-Kyun — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 13:44:57 +0000

WOW!!

Thank you everyone for the tremendous support. I am actually on adultadoptees.org. I believe I go by the same name as this blog. Little KAD Prince. I’ll have to check though it’s been a while since I have been there.

Again thank you all. Hopefully I’ll be able to weather this storm.

By: HeatherUK

HeatherUK — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 09:53:48 +0000

Hugs from another adult adoptee

By: girl4708

girl4708 — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 05:25:58 +0000

hey little prince

at wordpress i am girl4708, but normally i am almost human
i found out this week that a holt number is probably the closest thing to a name i’ll ever have, so wtf

i can relate to your moniker

to be totally alone on a little planet, your heart bursting because you care about so much, then losing even that, and then finding the world is mad and doesn’t understand what’s important

i used to dream of france and then i dreamed of cuba and then i dreamed of a backyard and for awhile i dreamed of getting out of bed

i’ve heard the croatian coast is beautiful, unspoiled

now i dream about changing hearts and minds about adoption

dream dream dream
you aren’t a negative bastard
you really do exist

i see you

By: unknownindybabygirl

unknownindybabygirl — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 00:46:55 +0000

Its a battle that all adoptees face. Some admit it like you and me. Some don’t. Its the edge that we walk every day. Like Gershom, its fighting for adoptee access across this country. Its helping others find. Its helping mothers and fathers keep their children. Its writing my thoughts and feelings. Its reading a good book. Its homeschooling my children.

Take a knee my friend, I got your back.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 00:19:18 +0000

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It really can be hard. I do hope, too, that you come over to Adult Adoptees. It’s a good, supportive and fun forum where people “get it.”

By: joy21

joy21 — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 23:57:14 +0000

We don’t have beaches like the Dalmation Coast?

That sucks for us.

Damn.

You are having invasive thoughts, I have had those too.

I am sorry.

You are a survivor, you have lived through such loss and you are still here.

hugs.

By: ulb1963

ulb1963 — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 23:34:47 +0000

Totally. Come to AdultAdoptees. We don’t have beautiful white beaches but we have the best smiley emoticons this side of the Adriatic Sea. I know what you’re talking about. And I’m so sorry you’re hurting.

By: Gershom

Gershom — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 23:23:17 +0000

I am so saddened when I see other adoptees down. I have posted your blog to an adoptee group I go to and I hope some will come to support you through these times, or maybe you will join us there? http://adultadoptees.org